Archives for “love”
Brene Brown says everybody has shame, but nobody wants to talk about it. But not talking about it lets us overestimate its power. I am happy to listen to my shame, but I don’t accept its theories about who I am. I won’t live in the house shame built for me. I have a different [...]
So Jesus was walking along with his friends, and he was *hungry*. He saw a fig tree! Sweet! Alas, it was out of season. No figs. “Damn you, tree!” he said. “You suck!” He kept walking, and the tree withered. “Uh, Jesus? Dood. You just killed that tree.” “Aw, shit,” Jesus said. He paused. “Guys,” [...]
A friend predicted (correctly) that I don’t make New Years’ resolutions. Then he asked me to talk about why, and it got me thinking. I came up with two reasons. The first reason is that I don’t want to think in terms of “fixing” myself. I’m a glorious holy mess, created in the image of [...]
The mystic poet Hafiz explains why I’m so stubborn about love. Even after all this time The sun never says to the Earth, “You owe me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.
This TED talk really made my jaw hit the floor. You may not know this about me, but… my life has been rough. I don’t mean I’m a victim. I mean I’ve been unhappy. Like 20-years-on-Prozac unhappy. (And other meds too.) I sought peace, not as a researcher, like this woman, but as a desperate [...]
Despite the following very sweet quote, please get ready to join me in hacking through the bullshit, and talking about how to pull off this “no blame” thing when somebody screws up… Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. — Rumi If you haven’t read part [...]
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. — Rumi When I first ran across the Retrospective Prime Directive, I was excited. It gave me hope that there were folks who’d found a way to do business without relying on blame. In my experience, blame gets in [...]
Last night at a meeting, somebody asked me why I don’t make money. There are a lot of reasons, but lately the reason I don’t make money is this: I am a full-time student. Not at a university (though Ohio State says they’ll hand over my Philosophy degree if I take three non-Philosophy classes so [...]
I just figured something out. And wow. So Radical Love Project isn’t filling my time or my life, lately. Well, it kind of is, in that I haven’t stopped with the crazy pursuit of love. But since we moved to Columbus, that path is fuzzy. It’s taking a long time to feel like we have [...]
In the 80s, when “Message in a Bottle” and “Roxane” were on the radio, I wasn’t really listening. I didn’t know Sting from Adam from Gordon Sumner. But now I’m reading his memoir, Broken Music. How that happened is this: I was looking up version of “People Get Ready”, and I found one that Sting [...]
"So long as men live together on earth and need means to deal with one another—their only substitute, if they abandon money, is the muzzle of a gun." Ayn Rand... I read this and remembered how it felt to think that those were the only choices. It's a feeling that has the comfort of familiarity. But I'm glad to be rid of it.
What if every time we choose love over fear every time we let redemption happen every time we forgive we add a thread to the tapestry of reality what if all those threads of love and grace become the substance that makes up the universe? What if they become god? What if we are creating [...]
I have never been into "taking things on faith"... I'm a critical thinker, an explorer, a critical rationalist. I question my ideas. Yet I have an idea I can barely stand to question.
You might know that I devote my life to love in every moment, and that, generally speaking, I am honest. And if you know me at all you know that I miss the mark on these things all the time—more on the former than the latter. But the path, for me, is reaching for that [...]
Ok, this is a rant. It's a rant because I'm frustrated. I want people to understand how much I love freedom, how much joy I get from liberty. And what's happening now gets in the way of that understanding.
This was originally posted at EpinoiaCafe.com. Lately, we’ve been spending some time at the park downtown. One day, I walked around with R for a while with cookies to share. On another, we were spreading the word about an emergency shelter, because it was to be very cold that night. Most recently, it’s been showing [...]
One night recently, I woke up four or five times with anxiety, and I did some combination of meditation and prayer each time. The anxiety began to lift by morning. I am so grateful that, instead of being alone on my zafu (meditation cushion), I am in the loving arms of my Brother. It makes it easier to remember that everything is, in fact, just fine. Just as sparrow is fed and the lilies in the field are clothed, I have all I need.
This was originally posted at EpinoiaCafe.com. I should confess right off the bat that it was something of a vision. For months now, maybe a few years, I’ve been drawn to this bridge downtown. You know, the Washington-Jefferson bridge? Well… drawn is a euphemism. I’ve felt called. I’m embarrassed to say so, but there it [...]
When Marshall Rosenberg talks about NVC, he sometimes quotes the schoolyard rhyme, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I can’t shake the idea that there’s something missing in this picture of the world. On the one hand, sometimes it’s possible for me to remember that people make judgments [...]
NVC (never heard of it?) says that if you want a better chance at getting your needs met, you should make a clear request (and not a demand). And Marshall tells us we can tell the difference because if it’s a request, we don’t get upset if the answer is “no.” So I know I [...]
It’s been a long while since I wrote anything here. Local food, whole, real food made of actual living things was really easy to write about at first, but after a while it becomes something like the platonic image of mundane. I mean, is there anything less interesting to talk about than taking a walk [...]
I went to a hempfest this weekend. Here’s proof! I was helping at a booth supporting Ron Paul for president. If you haven’t learned about Ron Paul, you should. Generally, I think politicians are all part of the problem, but Paul may be an exception. He’s a good guy, and could really help to wake [...]